Building Better Father Son Relationships

by Inspiration4Living.com

Building better father son relationships takes some effort.

As with everything else in life, relationships are often difficult to build into something positive. It’s easier in many cases to simply focus on the negatives in life or ignore the other person when times get tough.

When it comes to the father son relationships, however, it is up to the father to make sure that a strong bond is built and maintained throughout their life together.

There are some key things that a father can do to build stronger father son relationships. Remember, this relationship will be with you both forever, so make it work now. Don’t wait.

Spend quality time together

Sure, you’re working and you’re busy with some things going on at the office and you find that you have to work all of the time. But that’s still no excuse for avoiding spending time with your son. It doesn’t take much to build father son relationships. Fifteen minutes a day of quality time spent together is a great way to forge a stronger bond between the two of you.

So what constitutes quality time together? Basically, any time that you spend with your son and are focused on him, rather than anything else, is quality time. For instance, if you are working on your car with your son, but your focus is on fixing the car rather than showing your son how to do things with the car, then that’s not quality time.

If, on the other hand, you take time to show him how to fix things or check things on the car, and you make sure that he understands what you’re telling him and you offer him encouragement and support, then that’s quality time being spent together.

Talk plainly

You’re not his friend, but that doesn’t mean you can’t talk plainly to him about certain things. When there are issues that come up in your life about work, about your other relationships, or about his, listen to what he has to say. If he asks questions, engage him on those questions.

Too many fathers just say, ‘It’s none of your business,’ or ‘You wouldn’t understand.’ This leads to pushing your son away from you rather than drawing him in.

You don’t have to disclose deep, intimate secrets to him, but when you talk to him about these things, you show him that you respect him and care about his thoughts and opinions. This is very helpful in building a stronger father son relationship.

Go to his sporting events

Maybe you’re not a fan of soccer and find sitting through the games to be tedious. But if your son is playing in a game, being there is what matters most to him. Don’t bring work or a book to read while the game is going on. Actually pay attention. Watch your son perform. He’ll know when you’re paying attention and that will make all the difference to him.

Building close father son relationships doesn’t happen overnight and it doesn’t come naturally. It takes some effort, but when you make that effort, you’ll be rewarded by a lifetime of wonderful memories.

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