Dealing With Rejection – Advice For Handling Rejection
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At some point in your life, you will face rejection; however, this does not have to be the end of the world.
There are several areas in which one could possibly face rejection. Rejection leads to a number of feelings, including sadness, hopelessness and a lack of self worth; however, there are techniques to dealing with rejection that will help you retain your self esteem and move forward.
When dealing with rejection in personal relationships, a normal reaction is to ask what is wrong with you. Stop! Just because someone does not respond to you or does not want to be in a relationship with you does not mean that there is something wrong with you. Each person has his / her own values, wants, needs and expectations. Not everyone is compatible; therefore, not everyone will be in the relationship they think they want.
When you are rejected by a romantic interest, ask yourself if this would have been a good relationship to pursue. This could simply be nature‘s way of telling you this is not a good relationship for you. Take a look at your positive qualities. You must first learn to love yourself in order to successfully deal with rejection. Realize that rejection is not a personal judgment marking you as a bad person.
Another thing to remember when you are dealing with rejection is to not isolate yourself. Women especially tend to want to be alone when they are rejected; however, this can only lead to depression. Spend time with friends and family (with the people who love and care for you). Go out and do things you enjoy. Being active and spending time with loved ones will help you see the positives in your life. By surrounding yourself with loved ones, you are reminded of your special qualities and what you have rather than what you don’t have.
If the rejection occurs in a personal relationship, don’t jump into another one immediately. You need to give yourself time to heal, and by jumping into a new relationship, you are not being fair to you or the new person in your life.
In dealing with rejection, allow yourself to hurt. Rejection does not cause good feelings, and it is okay to feel (and express) your hurt over the rejection. Don’t bottle your emotions up inside. This can also lead to depression. Once you have worked through the hurt, move on. Don’t dwell on the rejection. You have a life ahead of you waiting to be lived, and you can’t do that by dwelling on the past.
When dealing with rejection, understand that you cannot control others; however, you can control yourself. You can’t make someone want to be with you or hire you for a job, but you can take charge of how you handle the rejection. Again, rejection is one key indicator that a particular relationship (whether it is personal or professional) may not have been the best fit for you. Realize that there are great things in store for you and embrace your future.
Rejection is natural and everyone will face rejection at some point in his or her life. You can’t control others; however, you can control yourself. By focusing on your positive attributes and your strengths, you are in a much better position for dealing with rejection when it comes your way.
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