Improving Sister Relationships And Rescuing A Failing Sisterhood Bond

by Inspiration4Living.com

One major bugbear in their sister relationship is if one of them does something to the other and doesn’t say, “Sorry.” I don’t know why this is the case, but it’s a big issue with them. I guess it’s a “sister” thing. I always insist on an apology from the twin who’s to blame for the upset and try to get them to hug and make up. This usually works after a lot of recriminations and tears.

Unfortunately, a minor issue like this can often continue to be a problem as sisters mature; old childhood hurts are recalled and magnified out of all proportion until the sister relationship between them breaks down and they really can’t remember why they don’t like each other any more.

If your bond with your sister is coming apart at the seams, one of you has to make the first move towards reconciliation before your sister relationship falls apart. Talk to her. If you can’t bring yourself to do that, then send her a letter or an email and follow it up with a phone call. Tell her you love her and try to choose a fond memory or two that you share, “Remember when Aunt Jane was chased by the goat?”, “Do you remember when we got the puppy?”, or “I’ll never forget how wonderful and supportive you were when I broke up with what’s-his-name.”

Tell her you miss her and the bond you used to share; she’s your sister and she knows you better than anyone else in the world. Even if you live hundreds of miles apart, it’s important to keep your sister relationship on an even keel and to stay in touch with her.

Treat your sister at least as kindly as you treat your friends. You’re probably much more tolerant of your girlfriends’ shortcomings and more amenable to forgive them for perceived slights. If you live close enough to each other, you could suggest a “play date” with her – perhaps just for a manicure or pedicure, or if you think you both can handle several hours together, a day at the spa. Maybe having a quick lunch with her or going out for a coffee would be enough to get you talking to each other again.

You may have to take little baby steps to repair your sister relationship with her and make a lot of compromises, but make the effort to do so. It will be worth it if you can get your sister, your best friend, back.

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