Improving The Mother Daughter Relationship And Building A Better Bond

by Inspiration4Living.com

A mother daughter relationship can be very complex, and will change as the daughter matures.

Many mothers of teenage daughters would gladly send them away to school or to live with a relative to avoid the day-to-day hassle of dealing with the mood swings, selfishness and drama that living with a teenage girl can bring. A mother’s love is usually unconditional, but this can be severely taxed by a growing daughter’s behavior.

Many mothers assume that when their daughter reaches adulthood, they will become good friends. This is not necessarily so. The daughter has her own friends and often resents what she considers interference from her mother. It’s usually up to the mother to try to find a balance between being a friend and being a mother – not an easy thing to achieve. She can sit back and let her daughter make her own mistakes and deal with the consequences of her actions, or she can intervene and try to give her child the benefit of her experience. It’s a tough choice to make.

The mother daughter relationship has to have boundaries or rules that are beneficial to both of them. With modern technology, it is easier for the mother to ‘keep tabs’ on her daughter and her friends through social networking sites like Facebook and Twitter, so they have to establish ground rules about whether or not Mom can ‘friend’ her daughter and see what she’s talking to her friends about.

Of course, it doesn’t help if the daughter is a ‘Daddy’s girl’ and is closer to him than her mother. This inevitably causes jealousy between mother and daughter. The mother will often resent the father because she feels that he is interfering in her relationship with her daughter. He is probably only giving the daughter the acceptance and encouragement she needs, in which case the daughter will turn to him for advice, which will cause the mother to feel left out of the equation and allow her relationship with her daughter to worsen.

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